How People affect us

Lately, I have been really, really focused. I have been working a lot, working out a lot, eating right, working on music a lot and spending more time with friends. I have become really happy with who I am and what I possess inside.


Today I realized something. I realized that people can affect us in huge ways. Sometimes we are content with ourselves and our life path and someone says something that shakes us up a bit. I noticed this a lot recently and realized that we have the power to react and get angry or take it with a grain of salt.


Today, I was at working out hard at the gym, doing strength training, when I saw a lady keep watching me. I thought maybe I had taken the bench she was going to use, so I asked her if she needed it and she said no. She then watched me do my triceps, which I knew I was doing right. She says "How are you doing those triceps?" I showed her and she goes you might want to do it like this. I then said, "Oh actually you're not supposed to do that." She then said "Yeah, you are." After being certified as a personal trainer a few years back, I clearly knew she was wrong but I continued on and didn't argue it. She then looked at me and said, "Isn't it amazing how some women have perfectly toned arms and some just can never get that?" Wow...here I was doing my thing, trying to get what I feel are toned arms and she is throwing negativity my way. I smiled and continued on, but felt bad for a moment. Suddenly, I noticed every flaw on my body. Sadness started to well up inside but then I took a breath and said to myself, "What are you doing? You don't know her and she probably has her own insecurities."


I have noticed this a lot. Women like to pick on other women. I think women cause a lot of self consciousness in other women and I wish this could be turned around. Men look at a women and go, "She's hot" or "eh" and women look at each other and scrutinize every flaw.


Women go to the gym hoping to achieve this thin perfect body but yet, whose it for? If you read any article, men want a women with curves. Here is a good one... http://www.handbag.com/relationship/sex/what-men-love-about-womens-bodies-50564


I feel that people have so many insecurities that they like to compare themselves and that's when women attack other women. I think if we come together and love ourselves for the body, the life, the successes and failures we have, we could all be more at peace.